How to Avoid Looking like a Tomboy


A tomboy is defined as a girl that dresses and acts like a boy. This is all fine and dandy in your younger years, but when you start to get older you may not want people thinking that you dress like a tomboy.

While having a tomboy for a companion is probably very enjoyable for most men as they can just hang out and be buddy, buddy, there is always the side of a man that wants to see the softer side of a woman. If you are dressed like a tomboy this can be a difficult thing to see. So how do you avoid looking like a tomboy?

Here are some tips on how you can avoid the tomboy label:

•    Spruce up your hair: The typical tomboy will simply throw on a hat or just let her hair kind of lay flat. Even if you have short hair you can use some gel and spruce it up. With today’s hair fashion, it is easy to find a simple way to make your hair fun, exiting, and feminine. Hats are fine, but save them for sporting events.

•    Ditch the jeans: While jeans are fine for certain occasions, in order to avoid the whole tomboy name calling you will have to wear other garments from time to time. Try wearing a nice formal sun dress the next time you go out. They offer much comfort and there is no way that a dress can come off as tomboyish.

•    Makeup: You may not be used to wearing makeup and that’s ok, but a little bit will go a long way in deterring the tag you don’t want. Some simple blush, eyeliner, and lipstick is usually enough to do the trick. If you want to get more in depth, go to a department store and let them show you how to apply makeup, they are always good for some free tips.

•    Scent of a woman: Try wearing perfume that is less masculine smelling and more feminine smelling. Wear perfumes that have a more floral scent as this is closely related to women.

•    Shoes: nothing screams tomboy like a pair of sneakers. This isn’t to say that you have to start wearing heels with everything, but there a number of ultra comfortable and very feminine looking shoes available these days so you can retire your Nikes.

•    Wear girl t-shirts: The only time you should be wearing a guy’s t-shirt is when you snag one of your boyfriend’s for a cozy pj shirt. If you wear t-shirts made for guys, you will look like a guy. Shop in the women’s section and get t-shirts designed for women, there is a difference.

•    Get your nails done: Another easy trick to squashing the tomboy image is to get a manicure done. You don’t have to have long nails already as you can simply go to a nail salon and they can attach false nails on top of your own. It’s hard to look like a boy if you have long luxurious nails that are painted a nice bright color.

Above all else, don’t lose your fun side. Guys like a girl that can hang with them and talk sports, but just because you like to act like one of the guys, doesn’t mean you have to look like one of them.

10 thoughts on “How to Avoid Looking like a Tomboy

  1. Joe Schmeaux

    I’m a GUY and I think this list is bull. I’d much rather date a woman that can pull off the tomboy look. Looking like a tomboy is not the same as looking like a guy. Screw femininity and be your own person for Christ’s sake!

  2. Layla

    I’m a girl and I agree with Joe here! This article is sexist and stupid… girls can be whoever they want to be, big shirt or small tight-fitting shirt. I love wearing big shirts when I dance and bgirl, and nikes are LIFE. Nike has gal stuff too and their sneakers are sweet. ;D A girl should not be afraid to wear what she wants and should exude confidence while doing so… screw this “womanly” shiz, it’s the 21st century for crap’s sake!!

  3. James

    As a guy I find this article inaccurate to some extents. Jeans and sneakers CAN be feminine, there is a difference between wearing a guy’s jeans and wearing girls jeans (though many guys do this now…). Not that it really matters to me, anyway. I prefer women who are a little feminine, but I am not every guy. I am also not having great luck with women right now, so what do I know?

  4. Christele

    To all the people commenting above, especially Joe, I say THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU! I’ve always been a tomboy, and out of fashion pressure coming from the media, etc…I tried to be feminine, I pretended as it was not me at all. Now I’m forty, I’m back to my tomboyish style and I agree, I screw feminity and gender stereotyping. I like guys who may want to display some feminity and women who want to do likewise with their masculinity. Gender is fluid, in fact in their such a thing as gender but social construction? As a woman, I’m fed up with the sexism produced by women in the fashion industry and I HATE women magazine for that!

  5. Yelida

    Most of the times I try to look feminine and take care of my looks, but then I think of how good it is when you can walk around normally without the pain of heels LOL, when you forget about painting nails or putting make up on blah blah blah… I always do that every once in a while but always go back to being somewhere in the middle, I wear heels sometimes at work and sometimes when I go out to party, I wear make up most of the times at work and when I go out but only a little bit, barely noticed. I try to wear clothes that match at least lol… Just a few little things that have come natural for me to pay attention too and make me feel good about myself… but if it´s not your thing, i say be whoever you want to be, it´s no one´s life but yours! xD

  6. Alisha

    I am a woman in my late 20s who grew up in an Eastern culture where women do not have many rights unless they are accompanied by a man (father, brother, or husband). I used to be tomboyish until I moved to US for grad school. Since moving here, I have liked being feminine in appearance but down-to-earth tomboyish (confidence without arrogance) in attitude. I love wearing heels, dresses and skirts, although I rarely wear them because wearing them reminds me of the objectification of feminine women. I tend to wear menswear styled for women (eg. shirts with ruffles or nipped waistline or lace, trousers and jeans with curves, jackets that are fitted, caps and hats and berets with feminine colors, trench coats that flare below like a skirt, etc). I like the article because it contains a few simple tips that I can follow to be feminine without compromising who I am. I can get my hair done or nails manicured (won’t be getting fake nails though … I don’t like fake) without changing my style. I also like Joe’s point that we should be who we are. I would like to be feminine to be who I am, not to attract someone else to me.

  7. Becky

    I agree with you above. My only problem is that I have gotten too comfortable in my tomboy lifestyle. I am 33 years old and have lost two husbands to more feminine women. Its great to be a tomboy around your guy friends and even when a female friend’s car breaks down. But, men have a tendency to want the best of both worlds and if a woman can’t be both then it will lead to heart ache and confusion. All I want now as a woman is for my guy friends to look at me the way they look at my gal pals.

  8. Sam

    It is my understanding that tomboy might be confused as a transgendered or gender confused. Back in the day a tomboy was considered cute by men and socially acceptable. The author clearly wrote this article for tomboys who are scared. . .or non gender confused. Slap on some lipstick without a mirror and hopefully all of us tomboys dont have to follow all these dumb girlie steps.Believe me going to a nail salon is really boring unless mom in law comes with me. Tomboys used to be so accepted!!!!!!

    Hey this sounds like another brilliant idea for a movie. . . scared tomboys wasting time with dreaded girlie shoes and salons. . .with a plot twist of finding real love faking being a girlie girl. Hey it was a lie. She isnt demure or sweet at all. Can he still love her as girlie girl if its one day out of seven a week. . . Copyright movie plot summary k.s. kim/ and mel consultants 2020

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